"Spanking: Why,  When, How?" by Roy Lessin

In this book, "discipline" is equated with spanking, which according to Lessin means hitting with sticks. Parents are placed as God over their children and to expect instant obedience and a "right attitude", and take orders like smiling robots for the parents' convenience.  If a child, even a baby, doesn't immediately obey, or exhibits a "wrong attitude" such as pouting, this book recommends whacking with a stick until the child cries and is "broken". Even if it causes physical wounds! Please write a review at Amazon! Click on "write a review" at Amazon's webpage (scroll down a bit): http://www.amazon.com/Spanking-Why-When-Roy-Lessin/dp/0871234947/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/105-5694770-1656411?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1185752540&sr=8-1

Here are some quotes from the book, that you can use in your review:

Part One: Why is Spanking Necessary?
p.19 "Many parents become skeptical of discipline and feel they will hinder their children's development and future happiness if they spank them."
p.20 "God wants parents to give children the kind of leadership they need not the kind they want."
p.21 "The heavenly Father is the proper example of parental authority."
p.21 "Some parents will say, 'I love my children too much to spank them.' On the surface this may sound good, but it falls far short of the kind of love God wants parents to show to their children."
p.22 "Without true discipline there is not true love, and without true love there is not true discipline. 'He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him' (Prov. 13:24)"
p.24 "Parents must guard against the fear that loving discipline is a form of child abuse. And they also must be careful not to become critical and wrongly judge parents who do provide this discipline. The failure to provide loving discipline through spanking is also a form of child abuse. Children need the loving correction of a spanking because it affects eternal issues as well as temporal issues. 'Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you beat [spank] him with a rod, he will not die. If you beat [spank] him with the rod you will save his life from Sheol [hell]' (Prov. 23:13, 14)."
p.25 "Though a spanking is not intended to be an enjoyable experience to a child or to the parent, if properly given it reaps positive and long-lasting benefits."
p.26 "One day, when she (Lessin's baby) was a little older, my wife went to put our daughter down for her usual afternoon nap. Suddenly, she let out the most obvious protesting cry which said 'I don't want to go to bed.' My wife and I decided we should discipline her with a spanking whenever this occurred."
p.29 "It is true that providing the loving discipline of spanking is hard work, but it must be done in obedience to God's Word. Spanking is a necessary part of the work that's needed to see positive fruit coming from children's lives."
p.30 "Spanking is God's idea. He is the one who has commanded parents to spank their children as an expression of love. Spanking is not optional. The question we face as parents is this: do we love our children enough to bring into their lives the correction of spanking when it is needed?"

Part Two: When to Give a Spanking
p.40 "The specific areas that need correction within a child are the areas of  willful disobedience and wrong attitudes."
p.41 "Cheerful obedience to parents is how a child pleases God. Willful disobedience and wrong attitudes are never acceptable and need to be corrected with a spanking."
p.42 "Obedience must be complete."
p.43 "Delayed obedience is disobedience. When a parent asks a child to do something once, in a normal tone of voice, a child should be trained to obey the first time he or she is asked. As children learn to respond to simple directives when they are young, their hearts will be prepared to obey the Lord in more important areas when they are older."
p.44 "Children should learn that their parents mean what they say and that *they expect obedience the first time they speak.* "
p.49 "Obedience from children should be unquestioned. A parent's directive does not have to be reasonable to the child in order to be obeyed."
p.50 "Issues such as lying and stealing also need to be corrected with a spanking."
p.51 "If a parent asks a child to clean his room and the child goes about his task with a long face and a complaint on his lips, this is not joyful obedience. If a child is told that it's time for bed and the child goes to his room pouting, this is not joyful obedience. These wrong attitudes need the loving correction of a spanking."
p.52 "At mealtime, for example, a child may not like a particular food that's being served, but the child can be trained to eat it with a thankful heart. Even a small child can be told, 'Please change your attitude. Be happy,' and be trained to do so."
p.53 "The next time my young son woke up from a nap with a cranky disposition, I said, 'I know you just got up from a nap and you are still a little sleepy, but I don't want you to be fussy or cranky during this wake-up time.' I found it took only a few spankings to see his entire disposition change." "When children protest, or throw temper tantrums, this too is a manifestation of a wrong attitude. The loving correction of a spanking is needed in order to correct these attitudes."
p.59 "The rod of correction will deal with any hereditary trait that is not proper, even though someone in the family may not have had the rod administered."

Part Three: How to Give a Spanking
p.65 "Some parents who say they spank their children see very little results in training them in obedience and right attitudes; the problem might be that what they mean by a spanking amounts to only one or two swats with the hand. This is not how a spanking should be given and will not produce the desired results."
p.66 "God has instructed parents to use a stick, not the hand, when they need to lovingly correct their children with a spanking. (A rod is a flexible branch or twig or stick.) The hand is a part of the parent and should be used for purposes of expressing affection and loving service."
p.67 "A spanking is not an enjoyable experience but rather a character-changing experience. Through the pain of a spanking a child is to be brought to the place of repentance over what he or she has done wrong. A stick is the most effective instrument to spank with because its flexibility brings the greatest amount of stinging pain without the danger of physical injury. Stiff, hard objects like paddles or wooden spoons don't produce as much pain and also include the possibility of injuring a child."
p.68 "Other forms of discipline such as putting a child in a corner, or depriving him of supper, or sending him to his room are not effective means of discipline because the issues of willful disobedience and wrong attitudes within a child's heart remain untouched. Repeatedly I hear from parents about the positive changes that have taken place in their children when they have changed to spanking them with a rod when correction was needed.
p.69 For myself, it took a while to see the importance of using a rod. Now that my children are older, they have told me that they respected and feared the rod more than anything else I ever used for spanking. It should also be noted that there may be times when spanking with a rod can leave marks on a child's bottom, especially if several spanking are needed within a brief period of time. However, these marks are temporary and should not become a source of discouragement to parents. It is better for children to carry a few temporary marks on the outside than to carry within them areas of disobedience and wrong attitudes that can leave permanent marks on their character."
p.70 "A spanking needs to be given promptly. If a two-year-old refuses to sit still in church and is spanked when the family gets home instead of being taken out during the service for a spanking, the purpose and meaning of that spanking is lost. A child is left very confused about what his parents really expect of him."
p.71 "Find a private place. Spanking is a private issue between parent and child. Before a spanking is given a parent should take the child to a place where privacy can be insured. "
p.72 "One day my wife was at a park for a picnic with some friends and their children. During the day, one of the children became disobedient and needed a spanking. There were no private rooms at the park, so my wife's friend took her son into their van, closed the doors, and gave him the spanking he needed."
p.73 Examples of "sins" that deserve spanking: "fussing",  "lied about taking a cookie", "Mommy said 'no' and you disobeyed."
p.74 "Often parents are unable to give an effective spanking because their children are not in the proper physical position to receive one. A child over a parent's knee may work fine when the child is young, but it is better to have older children simply bend over a chair or a bed."
p.74-75 "Children who fight a spanking by kicking or twisting or blocking the spanking with their hands need to learn to submit to correction. One day when my daughter was still a preschooler she began to fight the spanking I was about to give her. I had a talk with her and explained that I didn't want her to fight a spanking if she needed one. If she did, I would need to spank her separately for her fighting."
p.75 "God has given parents the perfect area on which to administer a spanking--the child's bottom. It is a safe place because it is well cushioned, yet it is a highly sensitive area."
p.76 "In order for a spanking to be effective, good contact is important. If a younger child has on several layers of diapers, or an older child has on heavy jeans, a spanking will not be effective."
p.77 "A spanking needs to be hard enough and long enough to bring a repentant cry, a cry that says, 'I'm sorry.' A parent will be able to discern in a child's cry when he or she has broken and come to repentance over an issue."
p.78 "If a spanking stops too soon, a child will remain only angered. Exactly how long and how hard a spanking needs to be in order to bring a repentant cry is a matter for the parent to determine. It can vary, depending on the sensitivity of the child's will."
p.79 "After correction, a parent needs to allow a child to cry for a reasonably short amount of time. Then a child should be told to stop crying and be brought under control. The period of reconciliation after a spanking provides a special time of love and intimacy to take place between a parent and a child. This can be reinforced by the parent through loving, reassuring embraces and a brief time of prayer.
p.80 "A spanking must be long enough and hard enough to bring a child to a place of repentance."
p.81 "A spanking is the most loving form of discipline. Children who are properly disciplined by spanking know that their parents love them and will have a healthy and proper self-image."
p.88 "By the time most children reach the age of one year, they have begun to crawl or walk. Willful disobedience at this stage will be very easy to detect. For example, a child who is told 'come here' by a parent but turns instead and goes in the opposite direction or stubbornly refuses to budge is willfully disobeying. A spanking is in order. Although a small child may not be able to talk, many other forms of communication are used to express resistance to a parent's will. Some express it through a cry of complaint or anger. Others will pretend to ignore a parent. Others will stiffen their bodies. Some will pout. Parents are soon able to distinguish between a cry that comes as a result of hunger, tiredness or discomfort, as compared to a cry of anger or protest. Parents should have no difficulty determining when a child is ready for the first spanking."
p.89 "Ideally, a child should not have to be spanked by the time the teenage years are reached. It would be unwise, however, to make a firm rule and say a teenager should never be spanked."
p.90 "It is true that there are many approaches to child discipline today. Many sound good and reasonable. None of these, however, is an effective, long-range substitute for spanking. God commands parents to spank their children."
p.91 "No child is basically good. The child that 'sweetly' approaches a parent in order to get his own way is just as guilty as the child that throws a temper tantrum."
p.92 "Loving discipline through spanking brings a parent and child closer together. Because a spanking deals with the heart of a child and establishes godly fear and wisdom within a child, it is easy to understand why Satan would oppose it."
p.93 "At times a child may need to be spanked several times in a day. Sometimes a child may even need to be spanked more than once within a brief period, for the same issue. The first five years are when a parent can expect the need for spanking to be the greatest."

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Thank you for speaking out against this horror!  
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And here are quotes from another more recent Lessin abuse manual, "How to be the Parents of Happy, Obedient Children":

p.101 "Every time a violation of the house rules or a willful disobedience takes place, parents must follow through with discipline. God's way of discipline for parents is to spank a child with a rod."
p.102 "Spanking is a form of parental love. Spanking with a rod in love on a child's bottom (which is the place God has provided for a spanking) creates a healthy and right kind of fear in a child."
p.103 "Spanking with a rod is the most loving way to discipline."
p.104 "A rod is a flexible twig or branch from a tree. It is the most effective instrument for giving a spanking because it produces the greatest amount of pain"
p.105 "Someone recently shared they had been using Ping Pong paddles and flimsy belts for spanking and didn't really get the desired results of obedience from their children; now that they've started using a stick from a tree they're seeing results coming quickly"
p.106 "A helpful suggestion of getting the best results when giving a spanking is to have the child in a good posture to receive the spanking. When the child is small he can be bent over the parent's knee. When the child gets bigger it is best for the child to bend over a bed or a chair so that the parent is free to administer the spanking more effectively. Usually when a bigger child is over the parent's knee the parent isn't mobile enough to administer a hard enough spanking to bring repentance.
It is important that when a child is spanked direct contact is made with the child's bottom. Spanking through diapers or heavy jeans does not bring the desired results. Parents must understand the purpose of spanking. It is to bring pain in order to produce repentence."
p.107 "Spanking must be done long enough and hard enough to bring repentence."
p.108 "Many parents make the mistake of failing to carry through with a really hard spanking. The spanking must go beyond the point of anger. It must evoke a wholesome fear in the child."

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