Child Training Tips by Reb Bradley

“Child Training Tips” is a despotic child abuse manual. It is based on Fugate’s book, “What the Bible Says…About Child Training” and contains the same baby-whipping advice for absolute submission to the parents, by crushing the child’s will.

In “Child Training Tips” Bradley insults children by calling them savage, depraved, ungrateful, selfish, self-centered, willful, demanding, sassy, smart-mouthed, lazy, disrespectful, rebellious, murderous, dirty, born delinquent, with “no morals” and a “depraved nature”.

No age is too young for “the rod” and Bradley advocates very early use, whipping infants 1 year of age of younger (p.133). Please write a review of this baby-whipping book on  Amazon!

Here are more quotes from this vicious book (see especially the bolded words, and pages 129-187):

p.17 “The Hebrew idea of rearing children was to bring them up to maturity by twisting them against their nature. Twisting requires firm effort, sustained throughout their childhood.” p.18 “One dangerous idea which has crept into the Church, is that children are basically good” p.19 “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child…foolishness does not mean childish immaturity of silliness, but rather perversity, which spawns deviousness, defiance, and rebellion.”
p.28-29 “The parent who indulges self-will does the devil’s work…and damns his child, soul and body forever.” A child’s will should be “subdued in the first few years of life”.
p.35 “Children must learn while they are still toddlers to obey their parents quickly and without resistance, and to endure hard situations humbly.” “They can learn as early as possible to die to themselves.”
p.41 The author says don’t do any “explaining and apologizing for disciplinary actions” and no “rubbing (the child’s) little bottom immediately after a spanking”. Only “intimidated parents…allow children to freely express their opinions, complaints, and criticisms regarding family decisions.
p.42-43 “To gain respect, parents must cause their children to obey their word. A parent in charge of the home speaks a command one time, calmly and clearly, and is obeyed.” “Do not allow your child to argue with you.”  “Aim primarily for (the children’s) respect—not their affection.”
p.44-45 “We are not answerable or accountable to our children.”  “Require quick obedience. Teach your children to obey without being told ‘why’”.  “Our children must learn as toddlers that we will not attempt to talk them into obedience.”
p.48 Older children “must learn to humbly accept parental directions without always knowing the reasons why. Give them a time period for demonstrating quiet, humble obedience (perhaps 6-8 weeks), during which all parental commands will be given without reasons, and no appeals will be considered.” p.52-55 “A good motto to teach them is, ‘Obey first. Ask questions later.’” “Never give instructions more than once.” “Repeating instructions is a form of coddling.”
p.58 Children “should not be permitted to offer an excuse.”
p.62 “Whenever possible, an unruly child should be taken somewhere private and disciplined, where others will not be disturbed.”
p.64 “Chastisement communicates the idea of making clean by punishment with a rod."
p.65-67 “God tells parents that they are not to withhold spankings from their children, for they help accomplish a soul-saving work.”  “The rod is God’s only means of subduing the self-will and rebellion that resides in every child. It is a quick, simple way of teaching obedience.” “It is often a self-serving love that makes parents refrain from spanking, or causes them to mete out soft disciplines and indulge their children. That kind of parental ‘kindness’ is harmful.”
p.69 “A child who is not spanked can hardly be called a son or daughter."
p.69 “That society which does away with corporal punishment will raise undisciplined, self-consumer young people…Sweden and Denmark…are now reported to have the highest teen suicide rates in the world.” [This is false! Sweden’s youth suicide rates have gone down since banning corporal punishment.]
p.71 “Chastisement draws a parent and child together.” !!!
p.73 “The chastisement is not over until a child is humble…when his will is submitted to his parents.” “If after a time of chastisement, a child lacks proper humility, the chastisement obviously did not work, and should be repeated a second time.”
p.74-75 “Any child who knowingly or willfully disobeys is in rebellion and needs chastisement. It is not the fact that they only took a crumb of cake after they were told not to touch it—it is that they intentionally disobeyed you.” “A rebellious child is one who resists his parents’ efforts to direct his life.”

p.76-81 Forms of “rebellion” that deserve a whipping:

Tantrums.
“The child moves his shoulder away when a parent reaches out to touch or embrace him.” “After being placed on their parent’s lap, they attempt to get off.”
“While being held in their parent’s arms a toddler struggles to get down.”
“Sulking, grumbling, whining, pouting, angry door slamming, glaring, silence”
A 3-year old saying “But I don’t want a shower. I don’t want a shower” when he’s being given a shower.
When a child “does not come exactly when called; walks slowly”
Leaving “the room while parent is in mid-sentence or during a pause between sentences.”
“Keeps inching his way to the door before he’s been dismissed.”
A toddler “unrolling the toilet paper”.

“Violating unspoken rules.”
Doing chores, but “not by parents’ established standards.”
Give an extra whipping if “children lie to get out of trouble.”

 FOOD  p.83 “If older children are lazy or irresponsible in work, they repeat the chore, get extra jobs, or miss the next meal.” p.84 “If dinner is eaten too slowly or complained about, declare dinner over, take it away and give it to them for breakfast the next morning.” “If they are unthankful for what is ordered for them at a restaurant, cancel their order and allow them only water.”p.88 “If they complain about bread crusts, do not cut them off their sandwiches.” “Do not feed them every time they claim to be hungry. Children around the world learn to live daily with hunger pangs. Our children can certainly endure them for an hour.”p.92 “If you say, ‘Eat the rest of it,’ and they leave half of it, you must bring a consequence.” p.145 “Parents should require children to eat food prepared for them: requiring them to receive the food their parents have chosen for them teaches them to submit to parental authority.”

p.87 If a child is bored, say “I’m glad to hear you are bored. You will find as you grow older that life is full of boring moments, so it is important for you to get used to enduring boredom now.”
p.89 “When they are upset, do not allow them to cry uncontrollably for as long as desired.” p.109 Don’t be “manipulated” by “an intense outburst of crying in a child.”
p.91 “Children must not be allowed to interrupt parental discussions, and offer their opinions without permission or invitation.”  “Do not always allow them to decide what they will order at restaurants. On occasion, exercise your parental prerogative of ordering for everyone.”
p.104 “Life is about responsibility, not gratification and pleasure.”
p.124 “It is appropriate for children to call for their parents to come to them in emergency situations, but not to look at a plaything they constructed.” “Unless it is an emergency, children should never be permitted to criticize those over them in authority…ie, If you are telling your spouse about an incident that happened last week, when your child interrupts your conversation to declare that the incident happened not last week, but 2 weeks ago, they are correcting you and should reap a disciplinary consequence.”
p.125-126 “Sass is any response to an adult statement that is given without permission or invitation.” “Sass is any response except Yes Dad, Yes Mom, May I appeal? or some other respectful request for permission for further discussion."
p.129 “The general rule for our children: If you have not been granted authority, do not make decisions on your own. If it does not belong to you, do not touch it. If you have not secured permission, do not offer your opinion.”
p.133 A baby “who struggles to get down from your arms should not be rewarded. Be sure to say “No” and hold him tight until he stops struggling.”
p.133 Babies are “capable of understanding correction by 1 year of age.” “If they can understand you, they can be trained to obey you.” “By 9 months old, children may not understand all your words, but most can read your tone and manner. They understand a firm ‘No,’ perfectly.”
p.134 “To test a toddler’s understanding of your vocabulary, without showing him anything, offer him a familiar treat, like ice cream or a bottle. Does he respond? If he does, then he is old enough to understand a simple direction such as, ‘Come here, son,’ and should be chastised each time that he chooses to defy your authority.”
p.137-138 “The parent must apply the same principle of child training to the special needs child as to any child:

 “A.D.D. is no excuse for a lack of self-control.” (3 of the author’s 6 children had ADD or ADHD!)

p.141 “Rather than waiting until Sunday morning and using a church worship service to teach a child to sit still, it is helpful to have them practice at home—not as punishment, but as a training exercise to help them get their little bodies under control. Pull up a chair and have them sit quietly for increasing increments of time. Try 5 minutes the first day, 10 the second, 15 the third, and so on. Chastise them each time they get down without permission. Start when they are toddlers and you will be amazed at what they are capable. This is a very simple means of teaching them first-time obedience.
p.142 “A child who is learning to submit his will to his parents should be required to respond… ‘Yes, Mom’ or ‘Yes, Dad,’; ‘I will obey you, Dad’; ‘I will stay in bed, Dad.’ Children can respond with anything you require of them, like my wife’s favorite: ‘Yes, Mother, most beautiful among women.’”
p.142-3 “If you want your toddlers to learn to obey your word, set 10 minutes aside each day to train them to obey your voice. Then find them in the house and call them to come to you. Speak to them calmly, and only one time. If they do not come, walk over, pick them up, look them in the eye, and say, ‘When Mommy or Daddy speaks to you, you must obey,’ and then administer proper chastisement. Place them down on the floor where they were, walk away from them, and call them again. Repeat the process until they come each time.”
p.153 Don’t “cease a time of chastisement before it has produced humility.”
p.179 “Do not permit ANY unkind words in your family, ie: no derogatory names.” [(Huh??? What about the author calling children “savage, depraved, dirty” etc. (see top of page)???]
p.187 If parents feel they have been “slack in their parenting” they should “plan for the possibility of several intense days of frequent chastisement. You may even consider limiting outside commitments for several days or taking a few days off from work, so you can devote yourself fully to consistent discipline.”
 
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